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We will counsel you on your secret issues.
This is Hello, the National Competition on Issues.
(Wow!)
We have special guests for today.
They've been married for quite a while, but it seems like they're newly weds.
How is that possible?
Here is Kim So-hyun and Son Jun-ho.
(Kim So-hyun and Son Jun-ho are the lovebirds of the musical world.)
We heard that you were sad because the other guest was your wife.
I was very sad. When I see Hello,
- I see beautiful... - A lot of idol groups come out.
Yes, I see many idol groups.
That's why I had high expectations for the guests.
After hearing that it was just us, I was a bit sad.
- You were sad because it was just you two? - Yes.
How do you think we felt?
- We're on common ground. - Yes.
So-hyun is happy because Tae-joon is beside her.
I can't turn my head this direction.
What's wrong with her?
(They were just introduced as lovebirds.)
Don't you two reconcile quickly even after a conflict?
It's really awesome to see you two sing together.
I think we're forced to reconcile with each other...
- because we're both on stage. - Because you're both on stage?
Can we listen to you two sing?
- Right now. - That's right.
(Let's dive into the harmony of love.)
(Give me your hand)
(Give me your heart)
(Our oath will never change, our oath)
(I hope we'll meet again, meet again)
(To you)
(What are you guys doing?)
(To me)
(I'm shy.)
Seriously, I mean...
- What are you guys doing with him in the middle? - He's like an officiator.
Really,
it's really nice to see you two care for each other.
There's a lot of problems between married couples on Hello.
We'll listen to various issues today.
Are there any issues you guys can listen to well?
Honestly, because I currently work and I married quite late,
- I can listen to issues of working mothers. - I see, issues of working mothers.
I think I can emphasize with those who are wives.
- True. - As for me,
when I saw Hello, I noticed that the men...
I noticed that the husbands received unfair treatment.
I'm not saying that I want to completely support the husbands' side,
but I want to help them understand women's perspective.
You can't change later.
- There are many who start like this and change their opinions later. - Okay.
- Yes. - You probably won't be able to say what you want to say.
(It won't be easy.)
Last week, "My Husband Was Stolen" had its first victory.
"My husband is so obsessed with golf he can't tell left from right."
He plays more than five times in a week.
More than five times in a week.
Be honest. Right now, between children and golf, which would you choose?
I want to play 2 to 3 more years.
I find that the golf course is more comfortable than my home.
Did your husband change after last episode's filming?
I came home after work...
- and found my husband home before me. - Really?
- That never happened, right? - I was so happy...
- because he was home early. - It ended early.
Yes, and he's working very hard to reduce his time playing golf.
I think he was shocked last episode. He's very kind to me now.
I hope that your husband's transformation and your smile will continue to last.
Will this issue win its second victory today?
- For the winner... - We will give the winner a 1,000-dollar gift certificate.
There may be people who want to send an issue to Hello but don't know how to.
Using your smart phone, you can download an application called TVUT.
You can click Hello and register your issue very easily.
- We hope that many of you will participate. - Right.
(I see.)
This issue is titled, "Why are You Living with Me?"
- "Hello. I'm a mother of three daughters and one son." - She has a lot of kids.
"'You're so young and you gave birth to many children.'"
"Each time this happens, my husband says,"
"'We're going to have more kids.'"
"'We're going to do our best to have as much kids as possible.'"
"I gave birth to my fourth child a month ago."
"'Honey, give birth quickly. Next time, let's get twin sons.'"
"Am I supposed to give birth by the order?"
"Even while eating, my husband says to me, 'Honey, let's make a kid.'"
"Even while watching television, he says to me, 'Honey, let's make a kid.'"
(That's awful.)
This issue should be read by Dong-yeob.
"Because my husband repeatedly says we should make a kid, my son in Grade 2 says,"
"'My mother is a giving birth machine.'"
"'My mother is good at giving birth.'"
"I'm not a machine that gives birth. I'm so sad."
"Everyone tells me that my husband and I have a good relationship."
"'Honey, my back and bone are in pain. I'm having a hard time.'"
"'I have so many things to do. Can you help me with the dishes?'"
"'That's your problem. Men shouldn't go inside kitchens.'"
He doesn't even help her?
"I'm so busy taking care of my kids while doing house chores as well."
"My husband, however, merely wants to make kids and doesn't help out."
"I really don't want to do this anymore."
"I don't want kids anymore. Please persuade my husband."
- Jun-ho. - Yes?
Can you say something on behalf of the husband?
I think he loves his country very much.
I think he would help with other things besides dishes.
- We will find something good about him. - Yes.
Let's have a look.
Let's meet our guest.
Let's meet our guest. Welcome.
(Who is the one having a hard time because of her husband who always wants kids?)
(Kim Gui-ok)
She's awesome.
Is that true that your husband nags you to beget more kids?
I think he thinks I'm a machine that gives birth.
- It happens ten times a day. - What?
When we're watching television, wherever we are, if he sees a child,
he says he wants to make more kids.
Even when he's gone to work, he calls me...
and tells me that he wants to make more kids.
Ten times a day... Kim So-hyun, what's wrong?
- What's bothering you? - It's not me.
Shin Dong-yeob...
was surprised that it happens ten times a day and his ears became red.
(What did you imagine?)
His ears are tteokbokki color.
I was so shocked.
I was surprised that he says that ten times a day.
Thinking of her hardship, my ears became red.
(You're unbelievable.)
What was your original plan for children?
We just wanted to have two children.
I'm the wife of the eldest son in the family.
That's why we thought that we should give birth to a son.
My mother-in-law wanted us to have a son too. That's why we gave birth to a son...
and nine years after that, I became pregnant with a fourth child.
- In nine years? - Yes.
Yes, in nine years. It hasn't been long since I gave birth to my fourth one.
My husband said it'll be good if we make an equal number of sons and daughters...
so that there will be six children in total.
I asked So-hyun when we're going to have our second child...
a month after she gave birth to our first.
I got slapped in the face when I mentioned a second child.
- When you mentioned a second? - She slapped me hard.
- You two are amazing. - My husband doesn't care about the kids.
He makes me do all the house chores.
- Is that so? - I ask him if he can do the dishes,
recycle the trash, or help with the laundry.
He then tells me that it's not proper for a man to be inside a kitchen,
or that it's not proper for a man to carry plastic bags.
He says that it's not manly when a man does those things.
(He is like a patriarch in the Joseon Era.)
(Oh dear.)
Let's meet the husband.
Let's hear his side of the story. Hello.
- Hello. - Hello.
He looks like a good person.
You can tell that he's a father.
How many more kids do you want?
I grew up in a family with two sons and two daughters.
We have three daughters and one son.
If we want to have an equal number of sons and daughters,
- we need to have two more sons. - Does that work according to your will?
What will you do if you have a daughter instead?
Then we'll have more sons.
Eight?
- If you have another daughter, then you plan to have ten kids? - Of course.
Is it easy to give birth?
It's not easy.
My wife called me one time.
She said that she has to go to the gynecologist, so we went.
She gave birth in 30 minutes. She's good at it.
- Is it true you gave birth in 20 to 30 minutes? - No.
That's what he thinks.
It takes about 1 to 3 arduous hours.
I have to feel the pain while giving birth.
- My husband thinks it's easy for me. - Maybe it's because he's young.
Is your health okay?
My mother still has pain in her legs after giving birth me.
My back hurts.
My bone hurts.
My husband asks me why that's difficult.
He says that everyone gives birth.
He then tells me to make more kids.
Why do you want to make more kids?
Don't you have enough kids to make a happy family?
As the elderly often say,
a happy home is one that bustles with people.
That kind of home is a happy one. It's my dream to have a big family.
- To have a big family. - That's true in the old days,
but times have changed.
It's hard to raise children. You should help your wife,
but you don't help at all.
We have an inviolable principle.
Men should never go into the kitchen.
I grew up with my parents and grandparents.
My father is quite patriarchal.
He tells me that men work outside and women work inside the home.
- There are elderly people who say that. - My grandfather was like that.
That was the culture back then, but things have changed now.
Your wife worked outside.
She works inside the home as well.
However, you only work outside.
You should help her with her chores then. She does both.
That's her issue.
- Men work outside and women work inside. - If you won't help her in the kitchen,
- can you help with other things like cleaning the bathroom? - Yes, other things.
- The bathroom... - Is it not manly to go into the bathroom?
That's right. I don't get my hands dirty or wet.
Has your father said anything about your wife having a job?
Elderly people say that women should not work outside the home.
They want women to do house chores only.
- I persuaded my father. - What did you persuade?
I told him that we need to have a dual income these days.
I told him that it's hard if I work alone.
- So then... - What did your father say?
He couldn't say anything.
If you can't go into the kitchen, you can help with other things.
I am helping. I go home early after working and drinking.
I'm responsible for vacuum cleaning.
- Cleaning? Does he help out with cleaning?
The one thing he does is vacuum cleaning.
He has a disease.
(What kind of disease?)
- He has mysophobia. - Mysophobia?
- Yes. - His face doesn't say he has mysophobia.
He runs the vacuum cleaner a hundred times a day.
He runs the vacuum cleaner so often...
that we have to change it two or three times a year.
- Is it because it breaks? - At home,
because I have four kids, I clean the house before my husband comes from work.
My kids mess the place up even though I already cleaned the house.
- Of course, you have four kids. - It's quick.
- It takes 10 minutes for things to get messy. - It gets messy.
It doesn't work even though I scold them.
My husband checks the house as soon as he comes home.
- He checks if I cleaned the home. - Does he check like this?
Yes, he does do that. He checks every corner of the house.
If he spots a strand of hair in the bathroom,
he tells me that I'm doing a bad job disciplining the kids.
He says that I should tell the kids to clean up...
after their own mess after taking a bath.
He scolds me about how I wash the spoons and dishes.
- So he does go to the kitchen. - This is really hard.
- He does go to the kitchen. - He keeps fussing over me.
I'm the one who usually stays home.
I take care of the kids.
When she comes back home from work,
- toys are all over the place. - It's messy.
- Of course. - I'm the one that gets scolded.
- You get scolded by who? - I get scolded by Kim So-hyun.
She fusses over me a lot. That's so hard.
You have to know that it's hard.
- I wanted to take your side. - It doesn't work.
It doesn't work.
If I clean up the toys, my children mess it up again.
Sign up for an issue here later.
Please come out here for a moment.
- You're taking the wife's side. - You can register through TVUT.
If you vacuum a hundred times, you can recycle the trash.
That deals with work outside the home.
That's true. That deals with work outside the home.
I don't like to see yourself taking a plastic bag and recycling trash.
- You think it's not manly? - That's right.
A true man helps his wife out.
(Good job, Tae-joon.)
- He's good. - Husbands are usually the ones doing the recycling job.
Our family is very structured.
We have kids numbered one, two, and three at home.
Our first child is a babysitter for our fourth child.
Our second child tidies things at home.
- Okay. - Our third child...
Our third child does miscellaneous chores.
I don't why my wife is having such a hard time. The kids are helping out.
Your husband says that the family is very structured. Do the kids help you?
The kids don't really help. They get a lot of stress.
- Why? - When their dad comes home after drinking,
he tells them to get a glass of water for him or to take off his socks.
- He's a king. - He says he'll give them allowance...
and tells them to get his laptop from the car.
Our oldest daughter tells me not to give birth anymore.
She says that she's going leave home if she get's another sibling.
That's how difficult things are for my children.
Your son keeps nodding.
- He agrees with his mom. - He keeps nodding.
Son, is your mother correct?
- Okay? - You just like the fact that you're on television, right?
(Bingo.)
Let's hear what the kids have to say. Hello.
- She must be the eldest daughter. - Nice to see you.
- What's your name? - Can you introduce yourself?
Be quiet.
Did you just say that to us?
We apologize if you were offended.
If she just said that, we do have a discipline problem here.
What's your name? Be quiet.
Her name might be Cho Yong-hae.
Cho Yong-hae.
- Did you really say that you're going to leave home? - Yes.
- Why? - I have to buy their things for school.
It's hard for me already because I have so many younger siblings.
If I have another sibling, I have to take care of him or her.
I have other responsibilities as well.
- It's hard for me. - Does your father ask you to do many things?
- Yes. - Such as?
When my father's at home during the weekends,
he tells me to cook instant noodles so we can eat it together.
He then tells me to do the dishes alone.
I have to do homework and other things.
He tells me to tend to my siblings if they cry.
- What does your father do when your siblings cry? - My father?
- He lies down, watches TV, and plays with his phone. - He probably scolds her.
- What about the second daughter? - He tells me to go out and buy things.
- Chores. - He tells me to take off his socks.
- He tells you to take off his socks? - His socks.
Does your father not know how to take off his own socks?
In the old days,
it was common for fathers to tell their kids to take off their socks.
They would have said it's stinky.
My father told me to take off his socks too.
Let's have the youngest speak. Son.
It's your turn. You're happy, right?
(It's finally your turn.)
Did you really say that your mother is a machine that gives birth?
- Yes. - Why?
She gave birth to this, this, and this.
(Son, the way you put it is a bit wrong.)
- She gave birth to four children. - I mean...
Isn't it good that you have many siblings?
My sisters hit me at home.
- Are you happy that you have a younger sibling? - Yes.
- Do you want to have another sibling? - Yes.
- Do you want another one after that? - Yes.
- Hold on. Is it because you want to hit them? - Yes.
- Yes. - Yes.
How many kids do you want to have when you grow up?
A hundred, a thousand, or ten thousand.
- I'm going crazy. - Like father like son.
- That's true. - A young son tells his mother...
- that she's a machine giving birth. - A machine giving birth.
How do you feel about that?
He's just joking.
It's not precise like an adult expression.
(What do you think made him say that in the first place?)
The best kind of education for children is...
showing that their parents have a good relationship.
What does the oldest daughter think about that?
I don't think so.
If my father begets a fourth child,
- he said that he'll take care of us more. - Right.
Seeing him now, I don't think he's really taking care of us.
My mother is the only one who's taking care of the baby.
I saw my mother go to her room one time.
I heard her taking about some tissue paper.
She was crying in her room.
I felt sorry for my mother. I decided to help her out more.
Why did you cry?
I...
I have to breastfeed all night...
- and can't sleep. - Right.
However, my husband...
drinks everyday and brings guests.
- He brings guests home? - When there's four kids?
He tells me to prepare some dishes because he's bringing guests to our home.
- He truly is patriarchal. - Really?
- He truly is patriarchal. - I prepare the dishes.
- As my husband and the guests drink at our home, it becomes midnight. - Right.
It will be good if the guests leave on their own.
- They don't go? - His friends keep eating and drinking.
- My husband tells them to stay and sleep at our home. - That's awful.
He tells them to sleep at our home.
- His friends vomit on our blankets. - On the blankets?
Yes. His friends vomit.
In the morning, my husband tells me to prepare haechangguk.
He himself keeps sleeping.
Don't tell me he did that when you were fully pregnant.
It was the same all along.
I prepared food and took care of his guests when I was pregnant.
Why do you do that?
Why did you drink at home when your wife was fully pregnant?
I don't understand.
She will worry if I drink outside.
(Is that an excuse?)
If I go outside, she worries.
The husband has a problem.
Now that I hear their story, it seems like he's a combination of issues...
- from last month and the past few years. - There were a lot of issues.
- He's a combination of all that. - Yes.
- I heard he made you drive as a chauffeur when you were fully pregnant. - Yes.
- We had this issue too. - What is this?
There was a husband who called all his friends when his wife was pregnant.
- He's a combination of all that. - He calls me no matter what time it is.
If I tell him to take a taxi, he tells me he doesn't have money for that.
He makes me drive him home as a chauffeur.
He's not even sorry when I'm fully pregnant.
When you're fully pregnant, it's so hard to breathe.
Your belly must have touched the steering wheel.
- It must been hard. - It must have touched.
- It's dangerous. - I was scared when I felt the baby jump.
I think my wife is enjoying it.
(The husband doesn't know he's in a hot seat.)
Do you think she came here because she enjoyed herself?
Shall we press the buttons now?
Why did you make your wife into a chauffeur?
It costs money to take a taxi. We have to work hard.
- You shouldn't drink, then. - That's right.
I can't help myself from drinking. I'm an insurance planner.
I need to have a good relationship with those I work with.
- We had a similar issue before. - Yes.
- We had a similar issue before. - He's a combination of everything.
Are you saying all these things after watching Hello?
Not at all. I'm in the sales business.
When I meet my customers, I ask them out for a meal.
I ask them if they were well. I take them out for soju.
It's about keeping promises.
Yes, that's important.
However, think about your family's situation.
Don't you think those people would understand if your family has a situation?
Don't you think you're being too harsh on her?
I do feel sorry.
I am sorry, but my wife fights through it strong.
- What? - He says that his wife fights through it.
- She fights through it. - Should she give up? She has to fight through it.
You're too confident.
(What's wrong with this person?)
One time, I had shingles.
- You must have been so tired. - Oh dear.
- Shingles is so painful. - After giving birth to my second child,
- my immunization level decreased. - That's right.
It felt like needles were piercing through me when I was doing dishes.
It was so painful that I accidentally dropped and broke some plates.
Nevertheless, my husband would bring guests home to drink.
You did that even though your wife had shingles?
You should have said something then.
You should have said that you have shingles so you can go to your room.
I did go to my room once.
My husband didn't understand.
He kept saying that he wants more kids in front of his friends.
- He kept saying that. - Your wife was in pain because of shingles.
Why did you bring friends home despite that?
My friends said they wanted to visit her because she was sick.
- Because she was sick? - They bought chicken.
This usually gets fixed when you get children.
You should feel sorry for your kids. Don't you feel sorry for your kids?
If you drink past midnight, your kids wake up.
I want to boast to my friends about my youngest.
It's right that I drink at home, or else my wife would worry.
Why are you concerned for your wife only at that time?
-Why are you like that? - You don't have much experience dating, right?
I only...
I was like that. I didn't date much before...
- Are you saying you regret it? - He is.
- You're saying... - He means that.
I didn't have much experience dating, so my wife had a hard time with me at first.
I didn't know how to love a woman.
- I didn't know how to love a woman. - Are you talking about yourself?
When I would make her upset,
I should apologize...
and try to comfort and console her.
Because I only hung out with men,
I would apologize very simply and go eat.
I would ask if she was fine then.
I didn't know why she was still mad at me.
- I would say that I apologized already. - You apologized.
I was like that. A friendship between men...
If you say that on behalf of men,
I say on behalf of women.
This is a basic problem between human beings.
If it hurts for you, it means it hurts for the other as well.
You must have been sick in the past.
You must have had a bad cold once.
- Did you say you're an insurance planner? - Yes.
How are you supposed do your job when you don't even understand women?
He has the most craven expression today.
Seriously, I...
- This is cowardly. - Do you feel like you're getting punched?
I'm very upset.
I do feel bad for my wife. She's having a hard time.
However, men should be strong.
- Why do you have to be strong? - So...
I can't express myself well.
As an insurance planner,
it's very cool how you responsibly keep your promises with your customers.
As a husband, however,
I really hope that you can do half of what you're doing for your customers.
I don't understand why you can't do the same for your wife.
- Why don't you think of your wife as the number one customer? - Right.
- Also... - It'll be good.
This is good. Today, you should make an insurance plan through your husband.
- You should make one. - She said she already did.
- She already did. - You should make one.
If that's so, Tae-joon and I will make an insurance plan as well.
(Please be nice to your wife.)
Please be nice to your wife.
Are we tricked?
(I think we're tricked.)
Contacts.
Does it get invalidated after 20 years?
Lee Yeong-ja, you didn't get tricked. You tricked yourself.
(Did I dig my own grave?)
Let us meet the friend.
Won-gi is my husband's colleague.
Our families meet together often.
I think to myself after we hang out.
I think I'll never be able to live with that kind of man.
I'm so glad that he's not my husband.
If a man drinks too much,
- his wife will try to limit him. - Right.
If she says something, then he...
yells at her to be quiet.
- He talks cruelly to her. - In front of other people?
Yes. One time, when we were eating together...
Won-gi has a big belly.
We said that Won-gi and his wife's belly looks the same.
Suddenly, he got drunk...
and lifted his wife's shirt.
- His wife's shirt? - Yes.
- Her fully pregnant belly was revealed to many people. - Oh dear.
- That's awful. - It was awful.
My wife is very lovely.
She has a baby inside her that looks just like me.
- I want to boast to others. - You must have been so upset.
Yes, it was very degrading.
- Right. - He said that my belly and his look the same...
in front of everyone. All eyes were on me.
- If I say something, then he ignores me and...
- tells me to be quiet. - He disrespects you.
He tells me to be quiet and not say a word.
He cuts me off...
even though I want to say something in front of others.
He then says behind me,
"You're good at one thing, giving birth."
Why do you say those things?
I think that's the way I express my love.
I love and care for my wife.
I don't know how to express my love to her.
My father was like that to my mother too.
It's like this...
You have kids.
- If you continue to do this, your kids will disrespect their mother. - Right.
You can't do that.
When I heard that the son said his mother is a birth-giving machine,
- I didn't understand at first. - It's that.
I think his father kept saying that.
When did you feel most upset?
I married quite young and gave birth when I was 21 years old.
My mother objected to the marriage.
- She wasn't happy about me giving birth that early as well. - Right.
After deciding on the marriage date, my mother suddenly died of a heart attack.
Every time I give birth,
I keep thinking of my mother.
When all the women giving birth lie in a row getting their anesthesia,
- I'm always alone. - You're without your mother.
I don't have my mother beside me. I'm alone.
It'd be so good to have my mother hold my hand and tell me I'm doing fine.
I don't think my husband understand that.
He would drink iced coffee beside me...
and play with his smart phone.
He would tell me, "Give birth quickly so that we can have more kids."
- I had such a hard time. - It's a moment of mixed emotions.
(Will he understand my empty heart?)
When she was giving birth or getting postnatal care,
what did you do?
- I called my friends. - Did you drink?
We ordered chicken with beer at the hospital and held a party for her.
Did you go with her to the hospital or help out with prenatal education?
- Did you massage her? - I can't do that because I don't have the qualifications.
The qualifications?
You're so funny.
I didn't worry.
I believed that she would pull through.
- You're an insurance planner who customizes things for people. - Right.
- Don't you customize things and introduce the plan to them?- Right.
There must be a type of customized love that your wife wants.
Why don't you love her the way she wants?
Do you know what kind of love she wants?
What kind of love do you want? How do you want your husband to treat you?
I wish he will stay true to his family each day, rather than think of the future.
He keeps saying that we should make more kids,
but I wish he would take care of the kids he has now.
I hope that he can say some kind words when he comes home.
I hope that he'll treat me as a human.
- People who come here... - What she's saying...
- She's not asking for much. - It's something very small.
Small things make up our daily life.
Those everyday things gather up to make up our whole life.
She gets hurt in the small things.
(Please make more effort for your wife and family.)
What is your wife to you?
She's a good wife and wise mother.
She's good to her in-laws.
She's good to the kids.
I'm extremely grateful to her.
Do you think you should change and help with the chores a little?
If we can get our fifth and sixth child...
I can go home early and run the vacuum cleaner.
The future isn't the point here.
The immediate tomorrow and today is important.
Can you cut down on drinking?
I'll try to cut down a little.
How often will you drink in a week? Two times?
No. I usually drink six days a week, so maybe five days?
If you're nice to her and make her happy,
- don't you think your wife will say she wants another child herself? - Right.
I will try my best to secure her happiness.
I'll take out the trash and come home earlier.
Are you slowly realizing that your logic doesn't work here?
What are you saying?
Guests, do you think it's an issue?
- I obviously think it's an issue. - An issue?
I had a lot of complaints even though we both work and take care of the children.
I always thought I was doing a bit more work.
After seeing this couple, I realize that husband was very good to me.
- Thank you, honey. - Sure.
I also think it's an issue.
I think you should study about women.
Listen to her words.
If you comfort her heart,
I think you'll be able to make the happy family you want.
Press the button if you think this is an issue.
Yes, you guys can press it too.
- Kids, you can press it. - Okay.
- Five, four, - Five, four,
- three, two, - three, two,
- one. - one. Okay.
You can only press once.
(I want to press 100 votes.)
Do you have anything to say to your wife?
Gui-ok, I'm so sorry for everything.
I didn't understand you.
I've only saw things from my side.
I'll be good to you from now.
I'll buy the chicken and fruits you like...
and tonight... I love you.
- Tonight. - Tonight.
"My Husband Was Stolen" has 166 votes.
Let's see how many votes "Why are You Living with Me?" received.
Many people pressed it.
I think it'll take away their first victory.
Will it be 168 or 158?
- It's going to be close. - Is it 168?
Many people pressed it.
- I think many people pressed it. - Go, go.
"Why are You Living with Me?" is the new winner.
- Jung Chan-woo. - Yes?
"Why are You Living with Me?" will sit on the new winner's seat.
(Congratulations.)
This issue is "Save My Husband."
"Hello, I'm a housewife with four kids,"
"I've been married for five years."
What's up today? It's a fecundity special show.
- Two issues... - Here's another issue.
"I have twin sons who are five years old."
"I have a three year old daughter."
"I'm pregnant with my fourth child."
"In this chaotic situation,"
"my husband prepares food and looks at them with warmth."
"Are you jealous?"
"I'm jealous too."
"My husband doesn't take care of the kids,"
"but fish."
"Fish."
(Fish)
(I want to go home.)
(The wife lost her husband to fish.)
Everyone, who has the more serious issue here?
She lost her husband to fish.
Okay.
"'Honey, I have to prepare dinner.'"
"'Can you take care of the kids for a while?'"
"'I'm watching the fish.'"
"'You should watch them.'"
"My husband doesn't care about the children."
"He only looks at fish the whole day."
"Was he a goldfish in his previous life?"
"'Honey, honey. Did you see...'"
"'the retinispora I put in the kids' room? It was for their atopy problem.'"
- "'I put it there but I can't find it.'" - Did he put it in the fish tank?
- "'I put it in the fish tank.'" - It's true.
"The kids are scratching themselves because of their atopy problem."
"However, my husband doesn't even care."
"It was during midnight one time."
"'Honey, where are you going at this hour?'"
"'The fish will give birth soon.'"
"'I'm going to fish for prawns to give to them.'"
"'I'm going to give birth soon too.'"
"'Are you taking care of the fish while neglecting me?'"
"'Yes, I'm neglecting you.'"
"'I can't take care of you right now.'"
"We fight almost everyday because these fish."
"Why does he not care for his children..."
"and only care for fish?"
"What should I do with him?"
(Honey, please take care of your children.)
This makes me more upset than the previous issue.
- Is it because the wife is rivaled with fish? - Yes.
The fact that my love is taken away...
How would it feel, So-hyun?
I was also robbed of my love.
He gives vitamins and cleans "this."
- Is there someone? - There's something.
- The baby? - A plant?
No, I love my car.
He washes cars.
- There are husbands who love cars. - There are people who love washing cars.
I thought it would take about an hour for him to get his car washed.
However, he doesn't come back even after three or four hours.
I went down to see because I didn't understand.
I saw him washing the dirty wheels with his bare hands.
- With his bare hands? - People usually wear rubber gloves.
This is a work that requires sensitivity.
You can't be rough with the car.
- You can't wear rubber gloves? - You can't.
Our guest is currently pregnant,
so she will come through the door. Please welcome her.
(Who is the one that has a husband that watches fish all day?)
Okay.
(Lim Ji-young)
(Welcome.)
- Careful. - It must be hard for you.
Careful. Spread your legs out.
- Spread your legs out. - Thank you.
This is a time when you have to be careful.
How can you say to your wife that her belly is bigger than yours?
However, this husband is a problem too.
How long has it been since you became pregnant?
I'm into my seventh month.
I have twin sons who are five years old.
- I also have a three year old daughter. - She's cute.
- Your kids are beautiful. - They...
- They need the care of their father. - Right.
My husband never helps with the children or with chores.
He watches fish like a crazy man.
But...
It's strange how he watches fish all day.
Forget understanding him. It's very strange.
- It's very strange. - Why does he do that?
- He doesn't talk much. Fish don't talk either.
I think he identifies with fish.
- What's his daily schedule? - His daily schedule?
He watches fish as soon as he wakes up in the morning.
After coming back home from work,
he feeds the fish.
He then eats his own supper...
and watches fish after that.
If I ask him how was his day,
he asks if I bought the aquatic plant for the tank.
He only talks about fish?
- Yes. - It's not like he talks to the fish, right?
- Does he only watch the fish? - Yes.
He watches fish for over an hour.
How many fish do you have?
He has over a hundred.
That's a lot.
That's quite a lot.
- There's three tanks. - He picked that up somewhere.
There's nothing to watch. What does he watch?
(The tropical fish swim peacefully.)
- There's a total of three tanks. - Yes.
A lot of guests on Hello had many interesting animals or insects for pets.
- There was one person who had a pet snake. - Spider.
There was a pet spider.
The spiders would fall from the ceiling when the guests ate meals.
Fish should be relatively okay as pets.
Taking care of fish isn't very hard.
It's just that my husband doesn't care about the family...
and only loves the fish. That's the problem.
My three kids have an atopy problem.
-That should concern you a lot. - It does.
My great aunt...
- gave us two retinispora. - The phytoncide inside is good for curing atopy.
Yes, it has phytoncide.
The phytoncide should be coming out from the kids room.
However, it's coming out from the tanks.
Why does he fish for shrimp?
I want to rest on the weekends.
However, he says that the fish will be lonely.
That's why he wakes up at six in the morning,
goes to Daebudo Island,
and fishes for shrimp until 10 o'clock.
Did he buy anything for you when you were pregnant?
I told him that I want to eat snow crabs recently.
My husband said that I'm talking nonsense.
- It's because you said you want to eat snow crabs? - Yes.
Let's meet the husband who fell in love with fish. Hello.
Hello.
(Who is the husband who fell in love with fish?)
He looks very nice.
Do you love fish that much?
- What do you like about fish? - I feel proud when fish give birth.
It's fun to raise them.
Please hold your daughter. You're neglecting your kids.
See?
Your kids are sitting down like homeless ones.
- Please hold her properly. - Lower her shirt.
- You can tell that he didn't watch kids. - It shows, right?
That one keeps looking at his face on the screen.
(No, no.)
- Oh dear. - See?
- I think she likes it there. - You can leave her there.
- He really didn't watch children. - It shows, right?
She's angry because you're being nice to her suddenly.
If you think fish are so beautiful,
how do you feel as you watch your kids grow?
They're too young. I want them to grow up faster.
They're not adorable now?
- They would be more adorable if they grow up? - Yes.
- Are you saying that they're not cute? - They should be at least 10...
I think I can play with them then.
- You want to be able to communicate with them well? - Yes.
Do you like fish because you're able to communicate with them?
I feel calm when I stare at them.
What I'm curious about is...
when did you start liking fish?
I liked fish ever since I was young.
I thought it would be good for my kids if we had fish.
I thought it would be good for their education.
You started to raise fish because of the children.
Why did you give the kids' retinispora to the fish?
I thought it would be good for the fish.
Retinispora is good for fish.
- Shouldn't your kids come first? - They have atopy.
He probably didn't know.
You put it in the tank because you didn't know what it was for, right?
I did know.
I put it in the tank because I thought it would be good for the fish.
Don't you feel upset when you see your kids in pain from atopy?
I will help with the kids.
Seriously.
Sweetie, let's go to your mom.
Baby, let's go to your mom.
Let's go.
(She carries them.)
Let's go.
Why are you crazy about the fish when you have these adorable kids?
Seriously. Let's go. They're so cute.
The kids look very peaceful.
They're wondering why they feel so calm.
What did you do for your wife when she was fully pregnant?
I don't think I did much for her.
- I can see that he doesn't talk much. - That's true.
He's a quiet person.
- You know, I think... - Yes?
The man who got first place...
He's noisy at least.
This man is a very difficult case.
It's because he's a man of few words?
Yes. He expresses himself at least, but that husband doesn't talk.
I think I like fish.
Why did you put the retinispora inside? I think I like fish.
That would make the wife go crazy.
He's an introvert and doesn't talk much.
Can you just accept the fact that he likes fish?
I could do that, but...
he doesn't care for us at all.
Recently, our youngest...
She's at the age where I can dress her up.
I told my husband that I want to buy clothes for her.
He said that she can wear hand-me-downs from the twins.
- She's a girl. - That's right.
She was embarrassed one time because she wore her brother's clothes.
After marriage,
I mentioned that I want to buy my first sandals.
But...
(She has been sad for a long time.)
- You were very sad. - He asked me if I really need that.
He said I can wear my sneakers.
I waited until the sale period when the sandals were 10 bucks off.
(She was upset because her husband was being too parsimonious.)
- Does your husband manage the money? - Yes.
I have his credit card.
How much does he use for the fish tanks?
Including the aquatic plants, the decorations,
and food, he uses about 100 bucks a month.
Why were you being so stingy? You can buy your daughter some clothes.
When we were young, we wore hand-me-downs.
Did you wear your older sister's clothes?
- Did you wear your older sister's clothes? - If you did, then we will understand.
Did you wear your older sister's clothes or your older brother's clothes?
I got clothes from both of them.
- You wore your sister's skirt and your brother's shirt? - So...
I didn't wear a skirt.
What about your wife's sandals?
You can't get secondhand sandals from your neighbor.
She told me about the sandals after she made the purchase.
I was used.
You were used by your wife?
Is it because she didn't receive your permission first?
She made the purchase first and than told him.
Do you discuss with your wife first before buying the things for the tank?
- I don't. - See?
Did you ask before putting the retinispora in the tank?
No.
See? He's a very dangerous person.
Does he take care of you when you're sick?
When I'm sick? Not at all.
We've been married for five years now.
I repeatedly went through the cycle of pregnancy and giving birth.
- For five years? - Yes.
You were continuously pregnant.
I have an infection in my feet.
It's called fasciitis. It's hard for me to even stand up.
I have to do housework and take care of children.
Chores pile up.
There's an aquarium near us.
- An aquarium? - My sister-in-law came to visit us one time.
They helped me with my chores.
- Your sister-in-law? - Yes.
I felt so bad.
Died your father tell you that it's not manly for you to be in a kitchen?
I'm not used to doing housework.
You can't do it because you're not used to doing it?
- Habitually? - It's hard to make a habit of doing chores.
That time was an emergency.
Did you know that your wife was ill?
Yes.
Did you ever think of helping your wife because it was an urgent situation?
- I did think about it, but it was hard to act. - Right.
Is there anything you aren't pleased with your wife?
- Is it because of that? - Perhaps it's because you want to retaliate.
It'd be nice if she puts the kids to bed earlier.
She doesn't do that.
That does bother me.
- Is that why you show your affection to fish? - I think so.
- You want her to put the kids to bed early? - What time?
- I think they should sleep at least at 11. - How long are they up?
Sometimes they sleep as late as 2 or 3 in the morning.
If he plays with the kids...
- They're very energetic at this age. - They'll go to sleep if they're tired.
- They're boys. - If he plays with them,
they will go to bed early.
He's busy with his own things.
- You can help out together. There's a lot of kids. - You can do it together.
- You can put them to bed. - She's seven months into her pregnancy.
I want to know why you think she has to put them to bed.
Please talk comfortably.
I won't hit you. Don't be scared.
I quit violence.
- She quit. - I really did.
Please tell us.
I don't know how to play with children.
What kind of father knows how to do that from the start?
Do you converse with them?
Do you ask them how they spent their day?
I think that I didn't give much care for them.
- I... - You don't talk to them at all?
You just care for fish?
Sir, just because you don't know how to play with children...
Will you do it if we tell you how?
- Yes, I will try to change one by one. - Okay, this is my son.
The twins. Come here. You play with boys like this.
You play with boys like this.
Come here. With boys...
- Do this. - Do the plane ride.
You can play with sons like this.
(Fly, my son.)
(She is powerful.)
You can do this.
You can play with your sons like this.
You can work out your lower body.
- That's true. How great is that? - You hit two birds with one stone.
- Fathers... - Yes, he's a father expert.
I think fathers always want to do something for them.
They want to to take them to a children's park, a zoo,
or a botanical garden.
- However, the kids only want to be with their father. - They just want their dad.
They just want to play with their father.
Kids want to connect with you.
When issues like these come up...
It was the same with the spider and snake case.
The fathers reacted sensitively if the kids touched the pets.
Was there any case when he became mad because of that?
The kids like the fish too.
If the kids want to touch the fish, my husband tells them to go away.
When the kids want to feed the fish together,
he says that the food will spill. He's very sensitive.
It's fine if the kids don't harm the fish.
They put yoghurt inside the tank and kill the fish.
I try to stop them from doing that.
Kids are innocent and naive.
If the kids think something is delicious, they'll give it to the fish.
- Because of that, a lot of fish died. - Right.
As soon as he came back from work, he went crazy.
He spanked the kids.
- The kids will always remember that. - So...
- Right. - How can you hit those adorable children?
If the kids are spanked because of those conflicts,
do they become distant from him?
The oldest told me once...
After coming back from the in-laws,
my son said, "Mom and Dad spank me,"
"but Grandpa smiles at me."
- That's heartbreaking. - Yes. It was heartbreaking.
I cried.
I told my husband...
not to spank the kids because of fish and to be nice to them.
He doesn't hear a word I say.
He spanks the kids whenever they touch the fish.
He doesn't express himself much.
It seems that you would have a hard time.
The wife's friend came today.
Hello.
Did you know about her issue?
She's having such a hard time because her husband doesn't help her.
She had postpartum depression.
There was one time I couldn't contact her for six months.
When I asked her about it later, she said that she fought with her husband.
She said that she was on bad terms with her husband.
You're saying that they could have resulted in an extreme situation?
- Yes. - Why did they fight?
- Hold on, let's ask the wife. - Let's ask her.
I think it was when I was nine months pregnant.
My sons are at an age when they are full of curiosity.
They put their hands in the tank and try to catch the fish.
- That could happen. - They can make a big mess.
That irritated my husband.
He shouted angrily as soon as he got home.
He was very irritated.
I thought that I couldn’t live with a man like him.
- You thought that when you were nine months pregnant? - Yes.
I signed my divorce papers.
I went out of the house.
- You went out of the house? - Yes.
He took away my credit card and cell phone when I tried to go out.
What is that?
- He's so stingy, right? - He didn't want you to leave.
He told me to leave the kids,
so I went out by myself.
It was a very cold winter day.
- I was fully pregnant. - He took away your credit card and phone?
I kept walking the streets.
I sat down on a bench.
I didn't know what I was doing.
I became worried for my kids, so I went back inside.
When I went back home, I couldn't open the door.
I realized that my husband changed the password.
It was so cold.
- I stood outside for many hours. - You were full pregnant.
Why did you reconcile?
(I'm so angry.)
- You shouldn't have reconciled. - If she doesn't...
It's not a simple problem.
- If she doesn't reconcile, the kids can starve. - Of course.
I don't understand why you changed the password.
I thought she would come home soon, but she didn't.
I changed it because I was angry.
- She was fully pregnant. - Were you that angry?
It was because she didn't come back even after several hours.
However, she came back.
Why didn't you open the door for her?
I thought I did. I don't remember.
- He did open it after a long while. - You didn't realize back then,
- but aren't you ashamed of yourself?- Yes.
He looks so nice.
I can't imagine him doing that. It's as if the wife is lying.
- He's a scary man. - She...
She must have been so upset.
Did you reconcile after that?
After going back home,
my husband was staring at the fish like a mad man.
I was so upset.
I cried a lot in a small room.
Didn't you comfort her? Did you say sorry?
Did you think of comforting her?
I was so angry that time.
She left the kids.
What about the next day?
Did you say sorry after your anger died down?
I couldn't because I was shy.
After you were done being shy, did you apologize after that?
Right? You were angry and then shy.
After you were done being shy, did you say sorry?
Even if it's not the wife, I think everyone will feel the same thing.
We've been together for an hour.
That's why I was like that. I don't know how to play with kids.
I can't breathe.
- I can't say anything. - It's stifling.
It's stifling.
This is...
The husbands are no two extremes.
I don't know what is more of an issue.
I think this man is more of an issue.
- I think so too. - Because all of us are having such a hard time,
let's take a deep breath and continue. Start.
- But... - I have to survive.
Do you two converse at all?
When my husband comes back home,
he almost doesn't talk at all.
I'm really curious.
What do you do at the moment?
A fish farm?
I do sales.
- Sales? - Do you sell anything?
That means you do sales with customers.
I sell curtains and blankets.
Is it because you're stressed by talking to customers...
that you find peace with fish?
I think so.
- Do you drink at all? - I don't.
You should try.
How special are fish to you?
They're like my family.
They're family that I must take care of.
You're not even taking care of your own family.
How special are your kids and your wife?
They're my family too.
They're not on the same level though. The kids and the wife should come first.
The kids come first before the fish.
(You're just saying the words.)
Lastly, can you tell us why you're here? Is there anything you want to say to him?
I hope you won't look at fish at least for the weekends.
I hope that you can play with your kids.
I hope you can buy me some snow crabs.
I would like it if you express your love to me.
I hope you will understand me.
Okay. Please press the button if you think it's an issue.
I think it's an issue.
The wife must be having a difficult time.
- It's an issue. - You said you're on the husbands' side.
It's so stifling.
- Just now... - You changed.
I definitely think it's an issue.
Please look into the eyes of your kids and your wife.
If you think it's an issue,
please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
Many people are pressing.
- Five, four, - Five, four,
- three, two, - three, two,
- one. - one. Okay.
I think it's a close match.
It's a close match. Before we check the votes, is there anything you want to say?
Ji-young,
you had a hard time giving birth to three children.
I should make you feel at peace, but I couldn't.
I'm sorry. I'm always grateful to you.
What are you going to do with the fish?
Now that you're on it...
I should keep raising the fish.
- Of course you can raise the fish. - Yes.
- Of course you keep raising the fish. - Your priorities should be your family.
Will it go over 168 votes?
- Please show us the votes. - It's a close match.
- Will it be 168? - What's the last digit?
- Is it possible? - Is it 169?
- Oh no. - Oh my.
(Will the results be overturned with 169 votes?)
- Will it be overturned? - Oh no.
(She is disqualified.)
(He is sighing with relief.)
Why are you sighing with relief?
It means that you have a bigger issue.
I misunderstood.
- Good job. - We hope you will be happy.
This issue is from Jeju Island.
- Jeju Island. - It's an issue.
Let me read it to you.
"Hello. I'm in my forties. I'm the head of the family living in Jeju Island."
- "These days..." - It sounds like someone from Gangwondo Province.
- Hello. - It sounds like Gangwondo Province.
"I'm in my forties. I'm the head of the family living in Jeju Island."
"I'm upset because of my nine-year old son."
"It's because of his unique treasure."
"'Dad, this is from 1992.'"
"'There's only one in South Korea.'"
"'Isn't this pretty? This is from 1974.'"
"'Look, look. Water can go down.'"
"Are you asking me if it's a toy? It's not."
"My son is into fans."
- Fans? - "Yes, the fan you know."
- A nine-year-old is into fans? - Yes.
"'I've never seen this fan before. Where did you get it?'"
"'I picked it up on the street.'"
"'Son, what's this fan? Where did you get it?'"
I can't hear you because it's uncomfortable.
People speak in the official dialect these days.
Okay.
"'I carried it here because the neighbor said it was broken.'"
- "There's about 50 fans that my son collected."- 50 fans?
"There's 50 fans."
"Our home is becoming a junkyard."
"What is more amazing is that..."
"he dismantles fans."
He dismantles it.
- That's awesome. - "'I'm going to get rid of these fans.'"
"'Please stop bringing these home.'"
"'Daddy, why do you discourage me?'"
"My son is in love with fans and won't listen to me."
"Please stop my son." This is the issue.
- If he dismantles fans, he must be like Edison. - Yes, he must be very curious.
Yes, but isn't nine years old a bit too fast?
Let us listen to the father's story.
Let's welcome the guest today.
Hello.
(Who is the one who has a son who loves fans?)
(Yoon Jun-oh)
It's okay.
Hello.
I think it's good that the son is curious about fans.
- There's about fifty fans in the home that are gathered? - 50.
- Fifty is a lot. - Right.
There's over 50 fans.
- There's over 50 fans. - What?
There's not only fans, but ventilators as well.
- Ventilators? - Ventilators?
- Ventilators? - He likes those kinds of machines.
- He like propellers. - Yes.
He has fans from the 60's and 70's and fans made in the States.
Sometimes, he comments on an overseas You-tuber’s channel, asking for his fan.
On Children's Day or on his birthday,
he wants to have a fan as a gift.
He doesn't like the Avengers or Superman?
- Doesn't he like Iron Man? - Not at all.
- There's not even a toy car. - It has to be a fan?
There's only fans and ventilators.
We thought you guys won't believe it,
so we have evidence.
- We requested evidence, right? - Yes.
- Let's have a look. - It...
- That's crazy. - Is that a kid's room?
What is that? It looks like a chamber pot.
- There's another picture. - What is that?
That should be on top of a roof.
- Oh my goodness. - It's for real.
Isn't it incredible?
The fans...
We hope the audience won't misunderstand.
It's like a machinery store.
- It's not a fan store. - Is that a house?
That's taken in front of our store.
The first one is a picture of the fans at home.
This one is a picture of the ones at our shop.
He looks like the manager of a store.
- He does. - These fans aren't for sale,
- but are collected by your son? - Right.
- The second one as well? - Yes.
Our store closes at 1am.
When I go home past midnight,
the parts are all dismantled. He doesn't clean up.
- The parts are all over the place? - Yes.
I'm so stressed out because of that.
It's like this.
When the parents go home after working, they must feel exhausted.
I really like the one that looks like chamber pot.
- It's like that. - That...
- That's usually on top of a roof. - Right.
- Right. - It really looks like a junkyard.
That's strange.
Sir, you've thought about this a lot and came all the way to Seoul...
to talk about this issue.
You must have talked seriously with your son.
I told him how he made a mess with our home.
My son replies,
"Father, why are you trying to discourage a child's dream?"
- That's quite mature. - What his dream?
He told his mom that he wants to become the CEO of a fan company.
He said he wants to be a CEO of an electronics company.
- CEO of an electronics company. - So...
Shall we meet your son? What's his name?
Su-jin. Yoon Su-jin.
- Su-jin. - Hello.
Can you introduce yourself?
Hello, I'm from Jeju Island.
I'm Yoon Su-jin. I'm nine years old.
Su-jin, why do you collect fans?
When I was five years old,
I saw the outdoor fan of the air conditioner rotate.
I thought it was very cool.
That's why I started to research on fans.
- Research? - He's good at talking.
Your father says he's concerned because of you.
Do you understand why he's so concerned?
I do think it's an issue.
I invested all my money.
- He invested? - I don't know why he tells me to get rid of the fans I bought.
I don't know why he's discouraging the dreams of a growing child.
- Anyway, you're saying why he's touching your stuff? -Right.
If so, what kind of fans do you have?
I have wall-hanging fan, a ceiling fan, a USB fan,
a stand fan, and...
Anyway, I have a lot.
One of them is made in the States.
I bought it for 230 bucks.
He said that there's one he values the most. There's a photo.
We'll show the pictures one by one.
- Can you describe what each one of those are? - Yes.
- Are you happy? - He feels happy because of the fans.
He feels happy.
- What is this? - It's pretty.
This is made by an American company.
They manufactured this from 1930 to 1950.
- Manufacture? - It has a vintage style.
- Vintage? - You know what vintage means?
- It means it's an antique object. - Right.
- It's antique but pretty. - Right.
- He's so smart. - It's vintage...
and the motor is very good.
There's two levels to it.
You can control it from a switch at the back.
You're very precise. What about this one?
- This looks like an old one. - Please describe it.
- That's crazy. - This is South Korea's...
- I'm reminded of my childhood. - Right.
- When we were young... - Right.
- Is it Geumsung? - It's a Geumsung fan.
It was manufactured in 1974.
The characteristics are... Do you see the cubic in the middle?
Light comes on there.
It used to be a green one.
I changed it into a calm yellow color.
- You considered the mood. - How much is that?
- A calm yellow color. - I paid 150 dollars.
- Really? - Really?
- There's more.- This is a fan...
that's manufactured 1976.
- It was made two years later. - Do you only like fans?
Do you like fans or the act of assembling the parts?
There was a cold wave watch in the winter.
That's why I made a heater with an incandescent bulb.
- Is there more? - I used ODD...
and made a CD player.
It's not complete. I'm also making an apple cutter.
- An apple cutter? - Yes, I'm making an apple cutter.
I'm finding the materials.
At school, I'm doing a program with my teacher.
I made a robot that avoids objects.
- Objects. - You'll be an inventor.
There's pictures of what he made so far.
Will he be South Korea's Edison?
Please show us.
- Son. - The one at the right is the incandescent light bulb heater.
The left one...
is made from a soju box.
I put holes in the box with a knife.
- He's amazing. - It works.
However, you can't hear the CD playing.
(You can't hear the CD player playing music.)
Why don't you clean up your things afterward?
Your dad says he's mad because you don't clean up.
I also want to clean...
Are you angry?
- He's talking. - He's moving forward.
I want to tidy after myself, but my father...
tries to throw away my fan parts.
What are you talking about?
He tries to throw away parts secretly?
Yes. There was one fan...
He threw away a very big fan once.
Why don't you clean up after yourself?
The reason is...
It's true that I don't tidy after myself,
but I am trying to.
So why don't you clean after yourself?
The reason why I'm not is...
because I'm tired.
- He spent all his energy dismantling it. - Right.
You assembled fans.
When do you feel most happy?
I felt good when I fixed a broken fan from my English school.
My parents own a store, and a regular customer there...
had a broken fan.
I fixed his fan in one minute.
You're awesome.
Are you his mother?
- Hello. - Hello.
(Mom is mine.)
He embraces her shoulders.
He's very mature.
Do you think you son...
keeps having conflict with his father?
They have conflict regularly.
On the parking lot of our store,
Su-jin spread out his fan parts.
- And... - Son?
- Son, your mom feels heavy. - He assembles the parts.
When the customers come,
it'll be inconvenient if it's messy.
His father tells him to clean it up.
However, Su-jin keeps working on his fans.
His father gets angry and takes it all away.
Su-jin will then cry when he does that.
I have to comfort my son while checking on his dad.
I'm in the middle, so it's harder for me.
You had a hard time too?
Yes, of course. Su-jin works on the fans all night.
He works on it until 2 to 3am.
- He occasionally has nosebleeds. - Oh dear.
When he was in Grade 1, he said he wanted to change schools.
- Why? - Because he was so into fans,
it was hard for him to mingle with his friends.
I still have to take him to school and back to home.
I watch him from my car to see...
if he is able to get along with friends.
You're worried about his school life as his mother.
I received some counseling at school, and the teacher...
said that classmates don't leave Su-jin out.
- It's that he is distancing himself from his classmates. - There are those cases.
However, it breaks my heart...
because he distances himself from his friends.
Son, did you want to say something just now?
- I want to say something to my mother. - Okay, sure.
Mother,
I'm not distancing myself from them.
My classmates aren't interested in fans.
I do talk about what my classmates like,
so please don't talk about that.
- He's telling his mom not to worry. - Son?
I'm really curious.
- Are his grades okay? - He's very good.
- I bet he's good. - I think he's top one or two in his class.
What are you worrying about?
Grades aren't everything.
- That's true. - He's in elementary school,
and he should learn how to socialize with his friends.
His parents must be worried because he's always alone.
Son, what's your dream?
I want to be the CEO of a fan company.
What are you doing for your dream?
I'm researching on fans.
- I also need to learn about management if I want my company to succeed. - Right.
That's why I'm reading books on management.
There's nothing to worry about.
- He has a specific dream. - He's smart.
He's diligent in his studies.
I don't think it's a very big issue.
The bigger issue is...
that when he assembles the fan parts,
he touches electric wires and also solders iron.
He solders iron.
- He solders iron? - That's how it's done.
After burning his hand once, he asks me to do it.
- He asks you to do it? - Yes.
- And... - He doesn't want to get hurt.
It's not like as he was soldering iron, he gets burnt,
and says, "I can overcome this for my dream."
Instead, he asks his father to help.
One time, when he was assembling a fan, there was a lot of dust there.
- A spark was created and a fire was started. - A fire?
- Because of that... His thoughts are ahead of him.
He's still young. I'm always worried.
Honestly, I begot him after fourteen years of marriage.
- He's a precious son. - He's your only son.
He's only nine years old, soldering iron,
- and your worried he'll be electrocuted. - Right.
Do both of you work at the store all day?
Yes, we start from 5am to 1am.
Do you think he feels a lack of affection from you two?
He's keeps sticking to you.
We're wondering if that's why he's obsessed about fans.
We started this business before he was born.
I think that's possible.
I hug him and show him affection.
- Su-jin. - Su-jin, do you have anything you want from your parents?
- I want them to play with me more. - Right.
When my parents are gone for delivery,
the woman at the counter doesn't play with me.
I do feel lonely.
You know that you're parent's aren't neglecting you on purpose, right?
- Yes. - Why do you think they can't play with you?
It's because our store... Can I say this?
Can I say this, mom and dad?
Can I say this?
- What is it? - What is it?
- We have to know what it is. - What is it?
- It's a riddle. - It's like a drama script.
Can I say it?
Our store...
was founded...
by borrowing...
by borrowing $300,000 from someone.
That's how our store was founded.
- How did you know that? - You know precisely.
That's why...
we're paying our debts. We have $100,000 left to pay.
We have $100,000 left to pay.
That's why I hope that my parents will pay the debt quickly.
- Are you from the finances? - No.
You probably discussed this with your wife, thinking your son wouldn't know.
He heard it and remembered it, right?
Yes. There's no need for him to know this.
How do you think he feels?
Mom, please play with me. No, there's still $150,000 left.
(Innocence falls apart with reality.)
- That's true. - Right.
Just now Su-jin... He is a boy.
When we asked him if he wants anything from his parents,
- he said that he wanted them to play with him. - Right.
- You must feel bad because you can't play with him a lot. - He's young.
We don't even have a family picture taken in canola flower fields.
- Even though you live in Jeju Island? - Yes.
- That's how hard we're working. - That's the reason.
I do feel very guilty towards my son.
The father's eyes are becoming red.
Have you talked about what to play with your son?
I bet he wants to play with fans.
- Are you so sure? It might not be the answer. -Right.
What do you want to play with your father?
I want to play Red Light Green Light.
- What? - Red Light Green Light.
How come?
I...
It was a game I really liked from when I was eight years old.
I wanted to play the game with my father.
- That's nothing. - Can you guys do it here?
- Right. - Do it here.
Come here, Su-jin.
- Do it there. - Do it there.
- Su-jin, stay there. - Come from there.
Start.
Red light, green light.
- Su-jin is slow. - Red light, green light.
- You're caught already. - Red light, green light.
He's running away.
- I mean... - Su-jin, it took three rounds to come here.
Su-jin's expression is full of joy.
- Right. - How does it feel to play Red Light Green Light with your father?
Is assembling fans more fun or doing this game more fun?
Both are pretty fun.
I think it'll be great if my parents play Green Light Red Light with me often.
- It will be great? - I can reduce time on fans then.
I wonder if Su-jin is trying to engage with his father...
by working on the fan parts, making him worry.
Perhaps Su-jin wants his father to notice him.
He may be wanting to express how much he wants to play with you.
I think if you play with him more often, the fan problem may be reduced.
- I am thinking to go somewhere for a holiday during winter vacation. - Su-jin?
If you don't reduce the number of fans, I won't play with you.
No, no. You can't say that.
- That's not a solution. - This is a serious issue.
Instead of going somewhere for a holiday,
I think it'll be good if you can play Red Light Green Light with Su-jin...
even for three minutes after he comes home.
It only takes a minute if you do it fast.
He likes it so much.
- Will you do it for him? - Okay.
Father, is there anything you want to say to your son?
There's a promise made with my son before we came here.
If I get over 100 votes, my issue is really an issue.
In that case, Su-jin should stop collecting fans.
If I get under 100 votes,
- I would back off. - Yes.
- Su-jin. - Yes?
If I get over 100 votes, will you stop collecting fans?
I'll give you one response.
I...
I don't think I can stop.
I'll just collect from time to time.
Why are you the boss?
Su-jin is consoling his father.
If so... So-hyun and Jun-ho...
Is it an issue or not?
- It's not an issue. - Why?
You're the father. If you play with your son first,
I think Su-jin will become a good boy.
I think the three of you need more dialogue.
It's heartbreaking.
The father keeps requesting to put a stop to the fans.
The son keeps requesting the father to play more with him.
I think this is an extreme solution, but...
I think all the fans should be get rid of.
I think there should be time for the family to sit down together, eat, and talk.
This kind of time is very important.
If you think it's an issue,
please press the button.
(What do the audience members think?)
- Press it. - If we get over 100 votes...
- Three, two, - Three, two,
- one. - one. Okay.
Just now,
Su-jin pressed the button.
(What? Why?)
Did you see that?
Su-jin, did you press the issue button or the non-issue button?
It's a secret.
I'm going crazy.
How many votes do you think you got?
- I think I got 183 votes. - What?
That means you won't be able to collect fans anymore.
I think so.
I think people will think it's an issue.
Su-jin is very mature despite his young age.
He is very understanding and is a prodigy.
I think you need to educate him in a special way.
How many votes do we have? Su-jin says he got 183.
- I don't think so. -Right.
- That'll be the highest vote then. - He is a nine-year-old in these moments.
Please show us.
The results... Seven votes.
- Did we get over 100 votes? - The end number is...
Will the father's wish...
Three votes.
Oh dear, three votes.
- Oh no. - If it ends this way,
Su-jin will never stop collecting fans.
I will reduce the number.
- Good. - Thank you.
- Sir, what should we do? - Oh dear.
With this, "Why are You Living with Me?" sits on the winner's seat.
We will give the winner a 1,000-dollar gift certificate. Congratulations.
Until the day we are all issue-free,
- Hello will continue to counsel you. - Thank you!
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